by Carmen Van Kerckhove
Once a month, I answer a reader-submitted question about navigating the intricacies of race in the workplace. If you have a question for me, email team@newdemographic.com and write “Ask Carmen” in the subject line. I can’t guarantee that I’ll answer your question, but you always have a better shot by making your question relevant to other readers, and making sure it’s one I haven’t answered in the past.
Q. As a white person who sees a competent co-worker of color being discriminated against in some way, what can I do to help set things right?
A. In this age of CYA (cover your ass) diversity training, many people have learned how to hide their racism at work. As a result, it’s often only white people who hear, without censorship, what other whites really think about people of color.
The sad fact is, in a situation of discrimination, a white voice can carry more weight than that of a person of color. That’s because claims of racism are often written off as someone trying to “play the race card” to get ahead at work.
When white people stand up for their co-workers of color, it can send a powerful message. But before you jump in, there are a few things you want to look out for…
1. Don’t make the mistake of unilaterally becoming a knight in shining armor and rushing in to defend your co-worker without his or her permission.
If you feel certain that your co-worker (let’s call her Stacy) is being discriminated against because of her race, take her aside and see if she is feeling what you are about her situation.
If Stacy is obviously uncomfortable discussing the situation with you, just back off. Remember, it’s a delicate situation and she may have compelling reasons for not wanting to rock the boat. Or she may be aware of the situation but is handling it her own way without your knowledge. Or she may simply not trust you, having been burned in the past by other colleagues who did more harm than good when they tried to help. Whatever you do, don’t take it personally if she reacts badly.
But if Stacy agrees with you, offer to speak up for her and see how comfortable she is with the idea. Make it clear that you’re offering your help not because you don’t think she can handle the situation herself, but because you want to show solidarity with her as a friend and colleague.
2. If you have your colleague’s consent to intervene on her behalf the next time discriminatory behavior happens within your hearing, handle the issue the moment it happens.
If you find Stacy’s supervisor shutting down when Stacy offers input, say something like, “Oh, I think that’s a terrific idea, Stacy! I can really see where what you propose could benefit us in a number of ways” (and enumerate them). If someone steals Stacy’s ideas and claims them as their own, step in immediately with something along these lines: “Yes, I thought that was a great idea when Stacy first presented it.” » Continue reading “What can a white person do about racism in the workplace?”